Moving Forward

Leaving was difficult, but so was staying. I had to prepare myself to walk away from the familiarity of my life, and that was the point.

Year Three: The Music of Your Absence

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Year Three: The Music of Your Absence

When I was younger, I had an odd little habit called Song of the Day. Back when the standard mode of listening to music was via cassette tape or CD, I would choose a song and play it on repeat, all day long.  All. Day. Long.  I’m not sure I understood then why my Song [...]

The Place

It is sometimes effortless

like conversations with trusted friends

the knowing of safety

where all you can do is be honest

one fragile word at a time

this is the place where healing begins

Christmas, Grief, Puppies, and My Two Dads

One of the most important lessons I learned after my Pops died was not to wait; never wait. Some people think it silly to spend money on a dog, and some people say you can’t buy happiness—I say those people must have never loved or been loved by a dog.

Two Years To Live

For those who feel like there is something wrong with them—the way they feel and think, or the way they grieve—this magic-lineless, unicorn-free piece is for you.

Blank Holiday

Some days there's a blank feeling that’s hard to describe in its nothingness. Not the absence of what once was, more like the subtraction of what should be.

Easier Versus Different

To suggest that it gets easier implies that grief no longer requires effort to hold; that it is somehow more comfortable. It’s not—not at all. It’s different.

Please Don’t Take Away My Memories

I realized that what I was searching for was proof. Proof that he existed, that he loved me and that he loves me still. I suppose in a way I was breaking my own heart.

The Connection Question

In this fast-paced, disconnected world we live in, we discount how important we might be to the person sitting next to us.